2020 has been one crazy emotional year for almost everyone and during a year like this our mental health is even more important than ever. Loneliness, depression, and anxiety are all common issues in my life this year, and learning how to fight back and take control is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Our mind truly is the most powerful thing, when we let it go on its own, negative thoughts can spiral us into a dark place that we can't seem to get out of, however when we learn to control it then we will become stronger human beings. This week is mental health awareness week so I thought it would be a great time to raise awareness and share 7 things that I have found in my research as the most important thoughts and feelings that we can control that can change our lives! Not to mention that I am also currently on my own journey to recover from mental illness. I hope this helps some of you to see the light at the end of a very long dark tunnel.
1) Your thoughts and beliefs
I have been reading a lot lately about the law of attraction and the key thing about positive affirmations is that the way we see the world is how we live in the world. For example, if you have positive thoughts and put out positive frequencies thinking the world as a good place then mostly good things will come your way, however, if you think about all the negative things and the negative people around you then that is what you will attract. How you think and what you believe in starts to be your life, if you are grateful for what you have and you believe in miracles then you may attract one, if you don't then you won't. I am currently in the process of learning and teaching my brain to think this way. However from the bad things that have happened to me I can say that I probably manifested those bad things to happen due to worry and stress that it would. I worried and had anxiety about someone important walking out my life before it had happened and it did. So why don't we work on changing our thoughts so that we can change our narrative? My new thought is that I believe the best of my life is yet to come therefore I know that the best is already on its way to me. Positive people generally live a better life because they don't have any worries due to the good thoughts that are putting out into the universe. Now I know it's easier said than done but if it works so well why aren't we all doing it?
Start to see the power you get from your pain and beauty that comes after a storm.
2) How you treat others
This is an important one that I personally try to work on, when I am in a depressive state and I can't seem to get out of the darkness I tend to snap and shut out the closest people around me when instead I should be letting them in and treating them with kindness and gratitude. How the universe works when you give to others is that you receive it in return. If you are kind towards people then people tend to be kind to you. Even being kind to those who are not so kind to you shows the nature of the person that you are and one day you will start to see good things come your way. Don't believe in the negativity, and don't treat people badly just because someone treated you as such. I subconsciously snap when I think about how hurt and how badly I was treated, this is not an excuse to do the same to others who are there for you all the time. Helping and lifting up others doesn't only make you feel good it makes someone else feel good too and what's better than knowing that you made someone else smile? It's simple, if you want more love then give more love, if you want better friends then become a better friend to someone else.
3) Your effort
This one should be obvious however it is still important to mention. The law of attraction only works if we put in the effort. We get out of life what we put in. This doesn't mean you have to put in a huge amount of struggle to get something it just means that every day you should do something towards what you love or what you want. For example today I ate very healthy and went for a run, I didn't go to the gym but I did something towards my health goals and it lifted my mental health. We are always in control of the amount of effort that we put into things. It is important to think positively to attract what you want but you also need to work hard to get it. Like me writing this blog, my goal is to write more and post more frequently - it's 8:20 at night and I would usually curl up and watch TV but doing this post is helping my mental health and can help others too. We are always in control of our results if we put in the effort to get what we want.
4) Who you surround yourself with:
We can always choose who we surround ourselves with as well as how much time we give to the people in our lives. Who we spend our time with impacts the person that we are and how we think and what we do. We choose if we spend time with the people that drain our energy or if people give us energy. I have spent a lot more time with friends recently and I have noticed that I love all my friends however some of them do drain my energy and bring me down so I know that those friends I don't need around me all the time. One friend in particular often always makes me feel worse about myself so I now know that she may not be someone I need in my life if this is how I am feeling. It is not rude to unfollow people online or unfriend people in real life if they aren't lifting you up and giving your life purpose. Spend time with people that make you feel good about yourself and allow you to just be yourself.
5) Gratitude
Being grateful for what you do have instead of constantly putting emphasis on what you don't have is huge when it comes to the law of attraction along with your overall mental healthiness. There is no better way to start or end your day with gratitude. What is great in your life right now? We constantly focus on the things we don't have and forget just how great the things are that we do have. There are things that we have already that others might actually be trying to manifest themselves but because of our mental health, we can only see the negative. I am grateful that I have such an amazing family and group of friends that are always there for me when I need them. I have a great job that is helping me save money and I have a roof over my head. What I do have already is pretty great and I should focus on that rather than anything else.
6) Your presence
Most of us live exclusively in our heads. One of the most common reasons that can cause ongoing mental illness for people is the cycle of negative thoughts - worrying and being anxious about the future or dwelling on something that hurt us in the past - these are mindless transactions that are causing you no value at all. Let's try to live in the moment rather than a point of time that is out of our control. Notice your family and friends and enjoy the little things. We have to try to get out of our heads and enjoy the magic of life as it is right now.
7) How you treat yourself
This one is the main purpose of the entire post and comes down to how you think and feel about yourself. Loving who you are is the most important thing and often we tend to find ourselves with mental illness because deep down that self-love isn't there. I know that my negative self-talk is toxic and is bullying me to the point of actually causing me my own depression. If you wouldn't talk to your friend like that then why would you talk to yourself like it? Start to treat yourself with love, put good things into your body, take yourself out for a walk, talk kindly to yourself. Sometimes even give yourself a break! We have to start doing things that are going to make us like who we are and stop all this self-hate.
I hope that you start to try some of these things and see a positive change in your life. I truly believe that our minds are the power to overall happiness. It sounds crazy but if we radiate positivity then life should be a lot more enjoyable as we don't sweat the small stuff and stop all the worry we have for our future. Stay positive, work hard, and enjoy living and you should see a shift in your life as you attract good things your way. Thanks for reading and please if anyone is suffering from a mental illness reach out I am always here for a chat or click here to find some helpful resources. Lots of love I will see you in my next post.
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